Monday, September 27, 2010

Saving Grace

Last night in Horizon worship I was in awe of the saving grace of my God. He is so amazing. I was almost brought to tears thinking about His grace in my life and the lives of my loved ones.

The words from the song To Know Your Name by Hillsong hit me especially hard
Arrested by your truth and righteousness
Your grace has overwhelmed my brokenness
Convicted by Your spirit, led by Your word
Your love will never fail
Your love will never fail

And He took my place, knowing He'd be crucified
You loved, You loved, for people undeserving

I was especially amazed as I thought about how He miraculously healed my grandma. It wasn't by her body's own strength or the doctor's wisdom - it was by the touch of the Master's hand! I claim Psalm 18 for her (which is David's Psalm of praise for when God saved him when he was wounded in battle against the Philistines). She should not have lived, but God still has chapters written for her life. He wants to show Himself to her in new ways...

vs. 26 & 27 - To the faithful you show yourself faithful, to the blameless you show yourself blameless, to the pure you show yourself pure, but to the crooked you show yourself shrewd. (She is all of those except crooked.)

Then we sang Mighty to Save (we must really like Hillsong). Whenever I sing that I always think of a particular family member and how God is mighty to save him. He needs compassion love, forgiveness, kindness, and hope. Jesus IS mighty to save and I BELIEVE that He WILL move the mountains!

One last song - Our God by Christ Tomlin
Our God is greater, our God is stronger
God You are higher than any other
Our God is healer, awesome in power
Our God, our God...

And if our God is for us, then who could ever stop us
And if our God is with us, then what could stand against?

I was trash before I found Jesus - literally, an absolute mess. You may not have known it then, because I hid it well. You may not know it now, because through His grace & mercy God put the pieces of my life back together.

Friday, September 24, 2010

From Haiti to Honduras to the Philippines

Before my birthday I sat down and replayed life in my head. I thought about all the people, places, events (good and bad), and opportunities God has blessed me with. Those things have all played a part in shaping the woman I am today; I've learned so much and have been stretched. In reflecting on the past 22 years, I am amazed and truly in awe of God's hand in my life. I can look back and see how He has orchestrated things perfectly, in a way that I could never see at the time. He shut doors of opportunities, sometimes infuriating me, though now I can see why and how it really was for my good. I'm going to talk about one of those now. I'll do a more general birthday post later.

In March 2009 my great friend Mackenzie and I began to talk and dream about leading a World Impact missions team to Haiti. She'd been there multiple times and felt God calling her there. I was enthusiastic and passionate about missions, pretty much willing to go anywhere if even only once. I'd been to the neighboring country of the Dominican Republic a few years before and was excited about the prospect of ministering on the other side of the island. So, together Mackenzie and I interviewed with Steve Pettis, Jeff Miller, and Julia Hurlow. A week after the interview World Impact said we weren't allowed to go to Haiti due to risk management issues, but that we were accepted as team leaders and could pick another destination for approval. I was confused and frankly angry. The door was shut.

Mackenzie and I were shocked and upset. We had prayed intently and dreamt big. We didn't have peace about their decision but there wasn't anything we could do. Mackenzie still felt called to Haiti so she decided to go anyways without the umbrella of the school, but I still wanted to be a team leader. So, we started praying for each other and our new direction. The school said there was a need in Honduras, a country I've already been to. I quickly became interested in this new prospect - I was familiar with the language, comfortable with the culture, and excited about returning to a country I've already been to and work with missionaries I knew (something that was on my bucket list). A new door was opened.

Then I got in contact with the World Gospel Missions organization and they informed me that the missionaries I wanted to work with (Travis & Lori Hawk) were no longer serving on the field. If I still decided to go there (Escuela El Sembrador) I would be working with new missionaries. I was so disappointed. I already knew that I wouldn't know any of the new students and now I learned that I wouldn't know anyone. It would be a totally new experience. I felt like they might as well send me to the jungles of Africa (which would have been cool too!). Again, I didn't have peace about this. I was so frustrated. Another closed door.

So fast-forward a few months to May when I went on a World Impact team with Steve Pettis, the director of World Impact, as team leader. We decided that after the trip we would get together and talk about another new destination for me to lead a team the following summer (this summer). My team went to the Philippines and worked with Jun Rafael and Joel Pascua - two amazing men of God. We did VBS's on various islands and I fell in love with the people and the culture. The team was the first team that Joel hosted and he didn't want it to be the last. He talked with Pettis about another team returning next summer, but Pettis said he couldn't promise anything. I overheard this conversation and my heart leaped, like I had a call that I should be the one to bring a team back. I pulled Pettis aside later and we talked about this. He was very supportive and suggested I talk with Joel about it. So, I did and Joel was so enthusiastic about it - we made plans for my return with a team. The door of opportunity opened!

So now as I think about that - the swell of emotions I experienced, especially the pain and frustration - I realize that it was for my good even though I didn't see it at the time. God's plan wasn't for me to go to Haiti or return to Honduras - His plan was for me to return to the Philippines! What if I would have gone to one of those places instead of the Philippines? I may not have had the team that I took this year, which means those relationships wouldn't exist. I would not have developed the deep friendship with Jun and Joel. I would not have gotten to see all those people again - the pastors and the kids. I would not have met MJ or May-Anne, Robin or Marc, Dennis or Grace, Francis or Leah, Michael or Joshua, Ronald or Romhar, Reyn or Elymar, or Mark and Daislyn. My only tour-guide would have been Algen (yikes), no Jerome. I wouldn't have eaten ice-cream with Richard again, I wouldn't get to play with Jed and Aiah. I wouldn't have visited all those new places. I wouldn't have ministered in Mindoro or at Onesimo. I wouldn't have killed any ipis (though I wouldn't consider that a regret). I wouldn't know the pleasure of jackfruit. I couldn't say I actually tried balut or dinuguan or bagoong. And, I wouldn't have met my Aldean Wayne! BUT God worked out His plans and I did all those things! He sent me 8,400 miles away to figure all this out - to find life and love and passion. I am so so so glad :)

This was not just an open door of opportunity, it was an open door to a new chapter of my life. I must remind myself of this lesson the next time He shuts a door in life. He knows what needs to happen to have a happy ending. He always does what is best for me. I hope He does whatever it takes, even when I'm obstinate and stubborn, or yell at Him for messing up my plans. I must remember that He wrote my life story.

Moments to cherish:




Monday, September 13, 2010

You Won't Relent

I'm so in love with my Maker, my King, my heavenly Father.
I fall deeper and deeper in love the more I get to know Him.
Life is going beautifully right now and all praise goes to Him!
I have joy, peace, comfort, and guidance - the kind that can only come from Him.
I'm learning and growing and becoming the woman He made me to be.
More and more, I feel His love and affections for me.
I feel so close to Him; I know He is part of every moment of my days.
He is calling me, preparing me, pushing me. I'm enjoying it, but it's not always easy.
He is asking for things I'm hesitant about giving away.
But I'm confident He cares for me, so it's okay, I'll trust Him.
I start my day reciting the fruit of the spirit, because I want to look more like Him.
I'm so excited for Summit (spiritual emphasis week in chapel) this week.
I can't wait to see what God has in store for me - lessons, blessings, plans, etc.
I love Him. I love Him so much.
I hope that others can see that in the way I live my life.
Nothing has been able to take my focus off of Him, and I pray that continues.

Sunday, September 12, 2010

Home From the Philippines

I've had this letter written forever but haven't printed it out to send it like normal. That may happen eventually, but online it will get to more people :)

Family and Friends,
Wow, I just don’t know where to start. My visit and ministry in the Philippines leaves me feeling so blessed, called, convicted, and encouraged. I had more than the time of my life. I want to take this opportunity to again thank you, my faithful supporters, for your support, prayers, and encouragement for me while I go on this venture we call life. This trip to the Philippines was not an isolated event; it is just one step in the journey God has called me on. He worked in me and through me in miraculous ways, continuing to prepare me for what He has in store for me in the future. I hope that by my sharing with you what God did and is doing, you will in the same way be encouraged to take part in your own ministry and continue to support those who feel called to missions. I know that I am who I am today because of these opportunities that I have had.
I returned to the Philippines for the second time and stayed May 3 – June 25. It was a tremendous blessing to be able to return and see familiar people and places, especially those who remembered me from the previous summer. I led a team of 8 IWU students for 3 weeks. During that time we did 8 VBS’s on 3 different islands – in a dump, at a Bible College, local churches, isolated mountain church, in remote villages with different tribes, and a Compassion site. With anywhere from 30 to 80 kids we told Bible stories, played games, colored pictures, sang songs, fed them bread and juice, laughed and had a great time. At the dump (right), we also painted the floor and pews in the church and passed out clothes to families. Most importantly, we bonded with the children and their families, sharing the love of God, and were impacted by their love. Aside from VBS we spent lots of time with the youth from the local churches. Many times we partnered together in ministry to do VBS. They taught us Tagalog, their language. We played lots of games, sang songs, shared our stories and testimonies, and bonded in fellowship. This was an invaluable part of our ministry.
The experience of leading a team was more difficult than I ever anticipated it to be. I had to force myself to take leadership in situations when it was not easy. However, I was extremely blessed with an amazing team. We united together as one to accomplish our purpose. We never had disagreements or quarreling. God really blessed and provided for us. Our team faced some health issues, but God provided healing. One team member broke out with a severe allergic reaction, after a few days without cessation he had to get a couple shots and take some steroids, it helped for a while but he continued to break out. We prayed over him and God healed him! Some of them have become my best friends. I am hoping that next year when I return (yay!) some of them will be able to come with me again. My team taught me the value of friendship and accountability, the importance of taking advantage of opportunities we are given, and the rewards of sharing our triumphs and struggles. Together we learned our strengths & weaknesses.
After my team left my internship in Urban Ministries began. My teammate, Megan, stayed for an additional week to do her Intercultural Nursing internship. This was such a blessing. We moved into my small room off the church where I stayed for my internship. Megan helped me adjust to what it would be like once I was on my own. That week I spent a lot of time bonding with my host, the pastor, Joel Pascua, along with his family. I also grew very close to Pastora MJ (left), who is doing her placement at the church before graduating from Bible College. She was a gift straight from God – He used her to teach, encourage, and stretch me. We spent hours together talking about life and what God has in store for us, dreaming about the future, and deciding what we need to do to be prepared for His service. I consider these irreplaceable moments because they gave me a chance to refocus on the purpose my ministry and internship, especially when I was stressed or distracted.
The majority of activities during my urban ministries internship revolved around youth activities. I was the speaker for two different youth services. I also shared my testimony in churches twice. On a daily basis I spent my time in casual, relational fellowship with the youth. We spent hours playing games and getting to know one another. They taught me about their culture while I taught them about mine. On weekends we went swimming, to the malls to hang out, and the market to go shopping. I also went with them on their weekly ministries to the campus outreaches (youth group for college students), Sunday school extensions (VBS), Bible studies, and prayer meetings. I grew to love these youth; we become close friends and I miss them so much! I am so thankful for facebook and skype so we can stay in touch! They were a real encouragement. Before this trip I did not place high value on relational ministry, I would rather chose to be doing something physical. However, God really used these youth to open my eyes to the importance of relational ministry. Now I can’t imagine doing ministry without involving and making relationships!
I also worked with a couple of organizations, where I was exposed to immense poverty in urban settings. We went with “Servants” into a squatter’s village where people move illegally into cramped, horrible living conditions. “Servants” is an international network of Christian communities living and working within the slums of Asia and the West, participating with the poor to bring hope and justice through Jesus Christ. At first it was pretty scary walking around, but so many people we met were friendly. A couple days later, Joel and I decided to collect clothes to provide for families whose homes the government had just burned down to intimidate the people and scare them off the land. Afterwards we spent a few days at Onesimo, a shelter for street kids who come from abusive homes, are abandoned, neglected, orphans, children of addicts, or even addicts themselves. They provide shelter, clothes, food, tutoring, and the opportunity to have an actual childhood. We took a family of 3 boys to Onesimo to live because their father is an alcoholic and cannot provide for them. I was extremely humbled – it was heartbreaking and encouraging at the same time. The youth and I painted murals in their classrooms.
Both of these are the types of programs I can see myself involved in later in life. My passion was rekindled as God reminded me of the calling He has on my life. I am so blessed to have grown up in such a loving, Christian environment. But, there are many children who do not have this privilege. I’m convinced those are the settings God is preparing for me to minister. At the same time I am comfortable and uncomfortable there. I want to help eradicate the social injustices, show love to children who would not see it otherwise, and bring the Message of Hope to seemingly hopeless environments. God has a plan for them, just like He does for you and me. I want to be part of it.
So, until I have the privilege and blessing of returning to the Philippines again next year, I will recount my memories and the lessons God taught me. I know that by doing this I will continue to grow into the woman God created me to be. Now I am working my way through reading the Bible in one year – it is as if I am reading some stories for the first time, very exciting! Faithfully I remain committed to His call for me and open myself up to whatever He asks of me or wherever He takes me. I ask that you would continue to keep me in your prayers – that God would continue to reveal His plan for my life and give me wisdom and guidance, and that I would continue to fall deeper in love with Him and stay focused on our relationship. I am a new person – I know the life changes and lessons from my time in the Philippines will last and continue to deepen.
In Christ Alone,
Jessie Reed

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Conflict vs Combat

"Conflict is inevitable but combat is optional." - Max Lucado

While reading my social work Practice III textbook on generalist practice there was an interesting section on conflict. I used to think all conflict was bad... though I didn't always try to avoid it as well as I should have, haha. I've faced conflict from sisters, parents, family, classmates, roommates, teachers, coaches, teammates, friends, co-workers, and strangers. It's not normally fun. People get mad and emotions flare; arguments and disagreements can result in hurt feelings. But, the more "mature" I've become, I've realized that conflict can be beneficial, especially when used constructively by reflecting on the situation. My text book listed 9 pros and some cons. Some of the pros are humorous, though I can't say I necessarily disagree with any of them. I don't suggest seeking conflict just for these benefits, but when it happens we should make the most of the situation.

1. Conflict can help us explore a situation more thoroughly (forced to evaluate issues & problems)
2. Conflict can cause us to make improvements in our behavior and communication.
3. Conflict can generate new energy to solve a problem. (motivation to change it)
4. Conflict can make daily routines more exciting. (creative thinking and stimulating ideas)
5. Conflict can improve the quality of problem resolution and decision making.
6. Conflict can release emotional "steam." (pent-up feelings just simmer and build)
7. Conflict can enhance our own self-awareness (what issues bother us most?)
8. Conflict can be fun when it is not taken too seriously. (discussion and debate)
9. Conflict can actually facilitate the development and depth of relationships (getting to know them on a deeper level, especially influential when there is positive conflict resolution)

BUT
1. Conflict takes energy, which is a limited resource. (Not to mention time, enthusiasm, effort and initiative)
2. Conflict may result in winners and losers (Adequate compromise isn't always possible)
3. Conflict may result in decreased collaboration and teamwork (lack of cooperation and communication)

A big factor in conflict resolution is the demeanor of those involved in the conflict.

1. The turtle - people who withdraw into their shells to avoid conflict
2. The shark - people who move into conflict boldly, pushing their opponents aside
3. The teddybear - people who value the relationship with the opponent much more than the achievement of his own goals
4. The fox - people who use confrontation to reach some agreement acceptable to both them and their opponent (compromise)

So would you consider yourself nonassertive, assertive, aggressive or passive-aggressive? It's something interesting to think about...